well, i found the problem....lol
when i was checking the purge and charcoal canister i noticed the rear mount, the bolt is backed off and it hit lil box the pvc goes into... all i did was push on it a tiny bit and the idle cleared right up... :TU:
it's not fixed yet but for now it is okay... im verry happy that i now know the problem...
my mom actually sugested it was a motor mount bolt and i laughed... umm, she was right...haaaa (she made me say that lol)
rep to everyone... thank you all for the comments, i really appreciate the help and support... this shit was driving me crazy...