What one person likes in the way a car handles, another may not. The only real way to set the car up for you, is to do a proper comparison until you find the setup that best works for you. It's going to to take time and money. But no one can make this decision for you. You are in the car, you are driving it, and you are the only one that it matters to. I can tell you what I have in my car and the way it's set up but it will only help you if you try it out to see if you like it.I have the ground control coil over kit with skunk2 shock and struts on a 97 civic hatch. I put the softer rates in the front cause it feels like it's not as harsh and bouncy and because I'm not slammed I don't bottom out and It rolls nicely into the turns.